Setting Up for Success
Before your video call, ensure you have the right setup:
- Good lighting: Face a window or use a lamp. Avoid backlighting.
- Clean background: Choose a tidy, neutral space. Blur if needed.
- Stable connection: Test your internet speed beforehand.
- Functional equipment: Check camera and microphone.
Video Date Etiquette
Treat video dates with the same respect as in-person ones:
- Be on time—punctuality matters even online
- Dress appropriately (you don't need formal wear, but look presentable)
- Maintain eye contact by looking at the camera, not your own video
- Minimize distractions—close unrelated apps and silence notifications
- Avoid multitasking; give them your full attention
Pro tip: Position your camera at eye level. Stack books under your laptop if needed to achieve a flattering angle.
Conversation Tips for Video
Virtual conversations require a bit more intentionality:
- Plan a few topics beforehand to avoid awkward silences
- Use active listening—nod and respond thoughtfully
- Share about your day or something interesting that happened
- Be mindful of lag; pause briefly after speaking to allow for responses
When to Suggest a Video Call
The timing is important. Consider suggesting video chat when:
- You've exchanged several messages and feel comfortable
- You want to verify identity before meeting in person
- The conversation is flowing well and you want to deepen the connection