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Meeting Someone New: Safety First

Ready to meet in person? Follow these essential safety steps before your first in-person encounter.

Deciding When to Meet

It's wise to get to know someone online before meeting. Consider these signs that you're ready:

  • Consistent, engaging conversation over several days
  • Successful video chat verification
  • No major red flags or suspicious behavior
  • Mutual comfort and enthusiasm about meeting

Before the Date: Preparation Checklist

  1. Share your plans: Tell a friend where you're going and with whom
  2. Choose a public venue: First meetings should be in busy, well-lit locations
  3. Arrange your own transportation: Maintain independence for getting there and back
  4. Keep it casual: Suggest coffee or a brief activity rather than a lengthy dinner
  5. Stay sober: Limit alcohol to stay alert and make clear decisions
Safety tip: Use the "Find My Friends" app or similar to share your real-time location with someone you trust.

During the Meeting

While meeting:

  • Keep your phone accessible but not obstructive
  • Observe their behavior—do they match their online persona?
  • Trust your intuition; if something feels off, you can leave politely
  • Stay in public areas throughout the date

After the Date

When the date ends:

  • Send a quick message to your contact person letting them know you're home safely
  • Reflect on the experience and your comfort level
  • Block or report on Meet Today if anything made you uncomfortable

Red Flags During In-Person Meetings

End the date immediately and leave if you notice:

  • Disrespectful or aggressive behavior
  • Pressuring you to go somewhere private
  • Excessive drinking or drug use
  • Any form of harassment or unwanted advances

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